Eh? What the Focker?

I have just spent a (very) long night shift being told how "that bloke that got killed in Eastenders" was also "the grandad in Meet The Fockers."

I can't be sure, but I think my work colleague was telling me that either Dustin Hoffman or Robert De Niro was in Eastenders, that they were killed off by, in his words "some ginger tosser that jumped off a bus but it wasn't him it was that tarty one", and then he started to tell me about something utterly unrelated.

What. The. Fuck?

Input, anyone? Please?